The other side of the coin
Today I want to draw attention to The other side of the coin. While it is true that when a son or daughter has more difficulties than the rest in its development we can always turn them into virtue -resulting an adult fighter and capable of overcoming any vicissitude-, we can also find ourselves with the other side of the coin.
A child that throughout his life proves that have to study more to get where the rest or, at least, approach; that he has to work above average to be an athlete; who fight for being honored, even if you observe how your classmates cheat their parents or teachers by copying in the exams; in short, that must put an extra effort not to be left behind, can, in the same way, run the risk of developing a equivocal sense of justice, concluding in each act of overcoming that "it is not just what it costs me and how easy it is for others".
For this reason, parents should be very aware to detect any symptoms that warn us of the formation of "a hard heart", a heart that has difficulty justify their peers, shielded by the idea that "nobody has given me anything".
At that moment we will have to develop educational strategies to show the son or daughter that each one should behave well because he wants to, because improve yourself first as a person, then, if we behave well depending on the attitude of those around us (classmates, teachers, bosses, friends, etc.), we would be missing our way.
Among the many things that we must transmit to the children, there is one of vital importance as is the "rightness of intention", that is, knowing why I behave in one way and not another - to pretend or to improve? -, since this helps to be master of one's actions, to act in a certain way because" it gives me the wins. "
And, in addition to doing things because we want to do them that way, we will also have to help them develop a heart capable of justifying the mistakes of othersThen, and only then, will they be able to understand and help those around you; only then will it have been useful for them to have more difficulties in their lives than the rest (at least, apparently), otherwise it will have been a waste of time and effort to stay just with the other side of the coin.
