Selfish phase, what is behind this attitude?
Sharing is one of the best values that most people can learn little ones. The fact of giving others the opportunity to be happy with what one enjoys is something wonderful and that must be inculcated to children from very early ages. However, sometimes it is inevitable to appreciate certain selfish behaviors among minors.
Why children demonstrate these behaviors selfish if they explain the virtues when sharing? What leads them to want everything they have for themselves and not allow the enjoyment of their brothers or friends? About it speaks the Federation of Teaching of Andalusia where they explain some of the reasons that hide behind this selfishness in the smallest of the house.
The origin of selfishness
The Federation of Teaching of Andalusia reminds parents that the initial state of every person is that of the selfishness. Individuals are born with an intense sense of belonging and fear of losing what they possess. Nobody is born understanding that sharing can be a good option to make friends, much less understanding that these attitudes can make a partner or family member feel happy.
At younger ages children constitute a notion of themselves, they have to build themselves as an object among others. A work hard since this happens by learning to discover that reality does not depend on his own desires, but that around him there are people with other motivations that he must understand and with whom he must relate for his full development.
This process is slow because it assumes that the child understands what is happening around him and understands what empathy means. At the same time, children will have to overcome the fear of lost that sometimes involves the fact of lending something to a partner, who could keep it and never give it back.
Working in selfishness
At the same the Federation of Education of Andalusia explains several ways to work to solve childish selfishness:
- The game. This activity represents a reality that strongly impacts the child, who relives what he liked by recovering past experience. Making the act of sharing a game will make the child have fun in the meantime.
- The language. Another way to work in selfishness is vocabulary. The "mine" must become a "ours", at least inside the house, where it must be shared as a habitual act.
- The drawing. The drawing represents a representation of the child's reality. Checking how the child feels and how he sees this environment will help through this activity to better define the reality of the little ones.
Damián Montero
