The secrets of family coaching: what it is and how it works
The family coaching it is a tool of accompaniment and support and values this instrument as a way to improve relationships within the family nucleus. Family coaching is a new tool for the support for families and aims to improve parental skills and promote positive parenthood.
But how is this put into practice? Ascensión Iglesias, president of UNAF explains that "in the day to day, the family coaching focuses on the capabilities and potentials that all families have, and from them focuses on building healthy and positive relationships, to improve coexistence and allow adequate individual and collective development.
What is the use of family coaching?
"The family coaching serves to awaken conscience and responsibility, develop skills and promote changes that enrich personal relationships and relationships between family members, "says Julia Pérez, director of UNAF.
Who does family coaching involve?
The Family coaching involves all family members, whether they are elderly people, adults, young people, girls and boys, which means promoting changes in the base of the future society.
How does the family coaching process work?
The family coaching process involves "unlearning to learn in a different way, questioning ourselves as fathers and mothers, as a couple, as sons and daughters, reviewing our emotional biography and asking ourselves what we have to offer to others," explains Gema Garrido, president of Praxxia Consultoras , who encourages to start this "daily training", which will help any family model. "It is, in short, a new way of being, being and acting".
Where does family coaching come from?
Coaching arises in the sports field, it moves to the business and work environment, and now it is incorporated into the family environment. "Coaching is a process of personal development and growth, with which we work on self-knowledge, our values and beliefs, our self-esteem ..., which is why it is a great tool for accompanying and supporting families, to get to know each other, to communicate and better manage our conflicts, "says Beatriz Vilas, president of the Spanish Coaching Association (ASESCO).
What elements does family coaching work?
- Communication between family members. Gregorio Gullón, UNAF Family Services technician, highlights the importance of communication in the generation of the relationship and the bond. "Accepting or rejecting the definition that someone gives of oneself, that confirmation process, is the basis of secure attachment, which is why it is important to change the look of control towards the sons and daughters with a view of ability".
- Emotional intelligence. Silvia Moreno, a clinical psychologist at Praxxia Consultoras, considers that it is an essential competence within families. "Knowing one's own and others' emotions, expressing them, understanding them and knowing how to manage them intelligently are factors of personal well-being that also lead to greater family well-being".
- The established beliefs. Carolina Aguado, developer of Coaching programs for fathers and mothers of the Francisco de Vitoria University, differentiates the empowering beliefs from the limitations. "You have to unlearn the latter, deactivate them, question them, assessing what they have served us at some point, what is the price of maintaining them, why other beliefs can replace them and what would be different in our life, family and environment if I change them."
Amalia García
Advice: Julia Pérez, Director of the Union of Family Associations (UNAF)
