15 keys of knowing how to be of the mother 10
Being a mom is not easy, and, despite our efforts to do it better every day and get 'Outstanding' in knowing how to be with the mother, 10 it is a challenge every day in which we must strive and put all our effort. Being a mother is an occupation for which you do not need a curriculum or experience, you just have to give everything.
There are times when mothers can not help it and we have to admit it: we screw up. It's a good thing that later it's taken out ...
15 keys to knowing how to be of a mother 10
1.- I will not shout at children in case of anger. Everything I have to say, even in a state of despair, I will say in a firm but calm tone of voice. If I have to insist on an order for lack of case, I will do it professionally, that is, with the "please" in front.
2.- If I see that I lose thedomain over my voice and the scream out of control to my throat, I'll try at least not to be guttural.
3.-I'll go in the calm car; Even if the others drive badly, I will never hurl expletives at other drivers, especially when the children are in the car.
4.- I will never say tacos: not even when the state of despair is extreme. This way I will avoid that the children repeat them and to pass the embarrassment of that they say to me in the tutoría of the school: "If the boy says curses it is because he hears them at home".
5.- I will not lie on the couch lounging around when there are little friends of the children at home.
6.- I will not scold the children of others although they have done it very badly, that is what the mother of each one does, that they have something for something. Nor will I advocate in favor of my child with that of other children, the best option is for them to manage among equals.
7.- On the birthdays of others, I will not throw myself as posesa to the piñata when my child shows no interest; and less I will monopolize two hands. Nor will I go later begging other children to learn to share.
8.- I will never go super mom, chatting and giving advice in an audible voice to the child in closed places, such as in the pediatrician's office. Banish the "What you have to do is ...".
9.- I will not talk about what happens to the child in the plural, in plan, "We have lice," "We are tired" or "We have become pooped." It's cheesy.
10.- I will not be vitiated by the Smartphone in front of children, never in public. If I am already hooked, I will try to keep at least a thread of connection with reality so that the child does not have to ask the same thing 15 times in a row.
12.- I will not talk to other mothers about the wonders of my child, as if they did not have one of the same age. In general, I will try to ensure that the exploits of my little ones are never a topic of conversation.
13.- I will have the detail ofdo not hook the baby, that already begins to chapurrear, with the first victim that calls me, less if it calls from a mobile.
13.- (I will try)Do not criticize other moms. And less to tell the children, to criticize at ease: "Go for a walk we have to talk about things for the elderly."
14.- I will treat the teacher with respect at class meetingsI will not oppose you nor question your proposals; If something I do not like, I'll say it in private and I will not ride a chicken. If I have concrete doubts about my little one, I will also raise them in private without mortifying the rest of the parents.
15.- I will make an effort to meet my children's classmates and to face their moms. Especially not to screw up and ask what course your daughter is in, when she has been a companion of mine for 6 years. If I learn the name, better than better; If I am bad by heart, I will resort to techniques of association of ideas, always thinking that my reputation as a charming mother is at stake.
Marina Echánove. Stylist and writer
Author of the book Your style. The keys to elegance, femininity and distinction, by Editorial Palabra
