We are approaching 50th birthday and I can not understand
It is very striking the crisis so deep that occurs in marriages when the spouses approach the 50th birthday. It is a stage of life in which we have to stop to analyze everything that we may be wrong for many years despite the fact that until then has not been a problem in the couple.
I say this because the way of life that we have led, the acquired customs, the time dedicated to sports, to friends, to what everyone likes to do, suddenly seems to be put under examination. At that moment, the examinee becomes confused and does not understand what is happening.
Many things happen because we suffer many changes in that stage of life. Our children are usually in their teens. Women approaching menopause, do not give any importance, but it has and a lot. The hormonal changes that occur generate aging. Sexual desire decreases, it tends to gain weight due to fluid retention and the slowing down of metabolism. Humor is usually more irascible.
The woman is more tired. Parenting is over. You can start to dedicate yourself to your professional work in another way but ... what most women really miss is their husband.
They are They have spent 20 years of their marriage working intensely, they have managed to get ahead financially with a family with a lot of effort, they have loved their wife and their children. And suddenly ... It generates a problem of incomprehension that leads them to discuss, to not understand and to despair before the bad environment they are able to generate between themselves and with their children. Communication is cut off. Each one makes his life, trying to avoid contact with the other so as not to argue because they can not talk. This is a couple crisis. Do not be scared.
The only thing they really need is their husband's company in an authentic way.
Feel that they really are the most important thing for them, that they would like to spend more time with them, that they have their opinion when it comes to making decisions, that they have fun together and alone because they have endeavored to win the love and trust of the other. It is necessary to perceive that they are being asked alone, that they are needed, that they are admired, that they are loved not only because the house works very well and the children are well educated, but because they love them. That is the only important. Love with works.