My son is a nini, what do I do?
The Ninis are young people between 18 and 34 who neither study nor work. Currently it is known that more than 50% of the population of that age is nini and has been increasing producing a lot of frustration in parents who are unable to know what is appropriate in these cases.
But it is not only the parents who suffer, some of these adolescents and young people are involuntary ninis. Among the characteristics that define these young people stand out apathy, discouragement, lack of dreams, projects and desire to do something for their future or their present, live lost and aimless and this clearly requires reflection.
If before the future was a little more defined and was more evident, now it is true that the possibilities have been opened, but although this is sometimes very positive because it brings new ways of living more related, much more to choose from and more creativity and freedom to express and work, it also produces more insecurity, competition and uncertainty.
More variety and apathy: the drama of the ninis
Currently, the world is evolving drastically. New jobs are being created, jobs that did not exist before, there is much more variety and they are given the possibility to choose what they like, but if before there were people who did not know very well which profession to choose today this increases since Besides, if before most of them would work in the same job, profession or work all their lives now each person will go through different jobs throughout their life, and this is something that for some people is exciting and stimulating, but for the vast majority it generates anguish and difficulty adapting to a world that is so changing.
Some when seeing the black or difficult future, or before this insecurity have thrown in the towel and do not strive to do anything, they are so big that they do not even bother to try it.
Causes of the nini generation
Most of them simply do not have the capacity for effort, they have studied a lot and do not want to do other harder jobs or that they consider inferior to what they deserve, so they live in their parents' house while they try hard to keep them. And here lies one of the causes that makes many parents work hard while their children have become spoiled living from the story, saying they can not find work of their own.
But meanwhile, why do not they work on something else? Many of them have grown up with hyperpaternity, in the era of whims and consumerism, they believe they deserve everything for nothing, because their parents who did not receive so many gifts, affection, or studies have wanted to offer their children more compression, love and gifts that they did not have.
We have gone from nothing to everything without a middle point so that now there are a lot of spoiled, immature children with 30 years that while they can continue living from their parents' work, they will live well-off, they do not need to leave the family nucleus because they feel better in it that nowhere.
Solutions for involuntary ninis and their families
1. For parents. A lot of understanding, love and support for those who really want to change their situation and even though they are looking for work they do not find work, give them enough tasks at home, so that they stay active, cooperate, feel useful and do not settle. As recommendations for action with your children nini, it is advisable not to give them money in general for unnecessary expenses only for the essential, set limits and trust that they can get out of that situation even if it is a bit difficult, avoid seeing them as poor children when they no longer they are, not helpless because they have all the potential inside them to get ahead, they are much more than they seem.
2. For involuntary nini. Keep believing in yourself and in life, despite the falls, the disappointments and all the times you have been told not in an interview, keep fighting for you, do not leave Do not forget that because you do not fit in some places that does not mean you will find your place soon. But they will not come looking for you at home, so come out, send many curriculums, try a thousand times, do it as if you were doing it for a small child who is not caught in a school. Surely you would keep looking for another until you find your site, you would not leave it for lost, you would not blame it that they have not taken it elsewhere, you would still love it and value it, do it with you.
Ideas for the nini volunteers
- If now you have no illusion for anything special, do not worry, try, live the experience, if you do not like or feel the need to change, do it but do not live half dead, without living experiences, without creating your own history, without feeling useful, capable, contributing to the world with your energy and qualities, no matter how much work you do if you still can not find your passion, what matters is that you put passion in everything you do.And one day when you least expect it you will be enjoying what you do and begin to see new possibilities that open up before you, and you will have become accustomed to working, to strive, to see that you can do many things, you will feel more secure and prepared for what awaits you and what you will do with pleasure and will give you the money you want to do things that you love.
- Get out of the dense energy of conformism, of comfort, of complaining, victimhood, humility, learn and vibrate in a positive attitude, collaborate and contribute to the world.
Idoia Berridi. Nutritionist and life coach. Author of the Book BeLove Method. Blog Be happy, be healthy, be you.